Choice from the essays "Stupied Americans" two essays out of the four that are attachted and do a reading response to it. The reading response must be 800 words regular paper not MLA and due in 8 hours. 20:00 at Los Angeles time. Attachted is an example of how the reading response should be.
Attachments: Jane Doe 2/14/14 RR1 Masculinity as Homophobia When reading “Masculinity as Homophobia” by Michael S. Kimmel, I found myself empathizing with the author’s feelings on gender rigidness. While my take on strict gender roles relates to that of femininity, I saw the struggle he portrayed within masculinity and adopted an opinion on masculinity that I had hardly discovered. While I saw masculinity as a harsh and limiting trait or identity, I never fully understood the turmoil it can bring to men, and the domino affect it has on those it touches, both men and women. It was interesting to me when the author touched on women’s views towards men and their determination of whether a man is homosexual or not. Of course, some of the women had very absurd theories and guidelines to draw a conclusion, but nonetheless, it directly affected male behavior among the group studied. For the women to say that they saw a man who didn’t spend much time on her, or walked and talked a certain way, as gay, the response in men was to act, walk, and talk in the most opposite of ways. Forcing men into “exaggerating all the traditional rules of masculinity”, as Kimmel puts it, can truly lead to aggressively violent behavior in men towards women. After all, a man wouldn’t want a woman thinking he is uninterested in her, right? I thought the idea of men feeling powerless as individuals, but powerful as a mass was very intriguing. For men to demonstrate violent, misogynist, or exclusive behaviors in the hopes it will keep humiliation at bay only adds empathy to the suffrage of men. If humiliation and exclusion are what men fear deep down, there needs to be a serious shift in thought in regards to masculinity and the expectations of men. We are so open, as a society, to gentleness and understanding towards women, but the sole disregard of emotion in the male realm only adds to the circular pattern of aggression and exclusive dominance seen in “masculine” men. Overall, men’s suffrage within masculinity needs to be addressed and tended to. For women to be given the spotlight on injustices in expectations of being a female, and men not, it speaks against the sole purpose of feminism and human rights. Equality. I appreciated Kimmel’s insight into the meaning of masculinity and how it affects men currently in our society. Understanding leads to change, and I feel a lot can be learned from his illustrations. John Doe 2/14/14 RR1 Is Marriage in Decline? In her article “The Marriage Crisis,” Aja Gabel discusses the falling marriage rate in America and potential causes of this decline. Gabel notes how the dynamic aspect of society makes changes to traditional practices almost inevitable. According to Gabel, an essential aspect to the decline of marriage was “the pill” which “gave women a lot more control in general” (73). Since I am currently enrolled in a women’s studies course, this claim is directly correlated to the material that I have been recently exposed to. The inverse relationship that exists between a female’s “control” over her own life and the rate of marriage elucidates how deeply rooted our society is in patriarchy. From the founding of the colonies, to modern day America, women have always been seen as subordinate to men. Despite this discrimination against women, the inequality that has existed between male and female has been overshadowed by larger inequalities that loomed in America such as that of racial and religious inequality. While freed AfricanAmericans received the right to vote in the late eighteen hundreds, it was not until the 1920s that American women received the right to the ballot. It is no wonder that women chose to delay marriage once they received control over their life. Gabel goes on to state how the pill allowed females to delay motherhood and ultimately “narrow the gender wage gap” (73). Since females were virtually forced into motherhood, they were unable to pursue higher education and establish careers for themselves. Thus, they were often dependant on their husbands and financially tied to the man they married. Even if they were miserable with their chosen spouse, women simply could not survive in the economic world without them. However, the pill allowed women to set off motherhood until they were economically self sufficient which severed their economic tie to men. Marriage was no longer a financial relationship, but rather one built upon love. Since love is an emotion and emotions are more unstable than logic, it is no wonder that this independence not only lowered marriage rate, but also increased divorce rate. In her essay “Could Temporary Marriages Reduce the Alarming Rate of Divorce,” Natalie Rivera discusses both this increase in divorce rate, and also a popular solution. Rivera introduces the notion of temporary marriages which would ultimately prevent divorce, by providing a way out of the marriage with time. However, she also says that “choosing how long to be married is like an easy way out of a life-long commitment; it is like doubting the marriage before it even starts” (81). I am in complete agreement with Rivera. Although the idea of marriage is losing its merit in the current day and age, I still see marriage as a lifelong commitment that must be endured through both the good and the bad. Surely temporary marriage would reduce the divorce rate, but not because marriages would be stronger. The divorce rate would drop because couples would be getting divorced after a couple years, without having to legally file for divorce. Proposing for a temporary marriage sets the marriage off on the wrong foot. Why ask someone to marry you if only for a couple years? Dating would be sufficient for that purpose. Temporary marriages simply undermine the practice as a whole and it truly is “doubting the [relationship] before it even starts” (81). I am completely opposed to the idea of temporary marriages, and those who would like to be temporarily married, should simply date their spouse so that they can fulfill their basic